Rollin' Like Sisyphus

Able, Baker and Charlie Walk Into A Bar…

Posted in Dating for Asperger's by Huckleberry on March 10, 2011

You, too, can be a prominent practitioner of Game...

And only Able could get laid, right proper, but Baker faked it well enough until Charlie put ’em all on a pedestal and started weeping inconsolably. And Dog just wanted to blow the joint up out of sexual frustration.
Or something.
In other words, Sigma Six, Alpha Bravo, Whiskey Tango Foxtrot
That’s right, “Game” is trending to the top of the charts for 2011, so strap on your feather boa, dab on some eyeliner and don your stupid hat, gents, because the poon* train’s set to run a few more crooked miles before dawn.
I’ve oscillated some on Game, as aspects of it seem spot on with everything I know about male/female relations, but I just can’t get past how stupid a lot of the PUA shleps look in their aforementioned Peacocking attire, a central plank of Game for many.
What can I say, aesthetics matter.
At a core level, though, Game is a perfect prescription for short-term success in the very narrow pursuit of beddin’ down, but I’ve seen too much of human nature to accept the wildly absurd idea that a person who does not come by things naturally (in matters of the opposite sex) can fake it till they make it. You are what you are, and in the moments of weakness that inevitably manifest in the ensuing years or decades with another person, reversion to one’s original state is all but guaranteed. This is the first of two reasons why Game is, in my observation, wholly incongruous with married life. The other reason is that Game operates on the threat — explicit or implicit — of infidelity, which is fine for what it is, but you may find employing that threat less practical than you would think over the long haul.
Are there aspects of Game that work as advertised?
Of course, but they are ultimately unnecessary.
Rule number 1A was, is and always shall be: Don’t be a pussy, don’t be a pushover.
Rule number 1B is be fearless in all things, not just with women.
That’s it.
That’s really all a guy needs to get by in the world, as everything else can be built upon this foundation.
Game is a needlessly complex artifice attempting to categorize and catalog the symptoms of a problem, rather than the problem itself.
Most men who have trouble with women (attracting them and living with them, at any rate) suffer because they lack confidence, and they are fearful because of it.
Now, such a man can sit there and try to calculate how many Negs to lay down per half-hour through dividing a woman’s hotness quotient by her Estimated Hypergamous Rating, or contemplate whether his purple boa clashes with his nightshade eyeliner all night, but that is merely treating a symptom of a deeper problem.
I posit that the only true, lasing cure is the development of genuine self-confidence. Vox et al goes on ad nauseum that Game is the best and only path to this.
I disagree, because a man’s self-confidence should have nothing to do with a woman at all.
If a man is out of shape, he needs to hit the free weights, take up a martial art, play some pick-up sports and develop himself.
Get a hobby. Immerse yourself in something that you enjoy that gets you out of the house, or that allows you to produce something.
Restore a classic car, take up gun-smithing or carpentry.
Learn how to weld.
Do something, build confidence in your own skills and abilities, and don’t worry about how to out-girl a girl.

* But its not about that, really. Honest. Stop looking at me like that.


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  1. Giraffe said, on March 11, 2011 at 09:28

    That chick is hot.

    So how ya been?

    • hk2 said, on March 15, 2011 at 10:53

      Been busy, which is fine, but its also been pretty crappy weather-wise until the past couple of days.
      No BBQ so far.
      Et tu?

      • Giraffe said, on March 16, 2011 at 08:41

        Still up to my nethers in snow. Somewhere there’s a hog shoulder with my name on it.

  2. Arielle said, on March 13, 2011 at 05:50

    This is a great post. Funnily enough, while I write from a very Christian perspective, and you’re writing from a secular one, you’ve nailed a thought I was never quite able to express – that a man should want to be a man and be able to be a man without women ever entering the picture. That a man’s life should not revolve around women. (Even though it can be complimented by having a good woman.)

    JQP is correct – Game is the flip side of white knighting. The pedestal may look like a cage in a goth club, but it still elevates women to a position of influence in a man’s life that they should not be raised to.

    • hk2 said, on March 15, 2011 at 10:59

      I think the big part of the misunderstanding on the part of Game theorists is that they believe there are kinds of confidence, that confidence can be compartmentalized — confidence with women is unique and separate from confidence in craft, which is wholly distinct from confidence in athletics.
      Nothing could be further from the truth. Confidence is confidence, and either a man has it or he needs to develop it.
      JQP is right, black knighting makes the woman as central to the process as white knighting does.
      The other thing about Game — and why it cannot be thought of as anything more than quick-hit beddin’ down — is that the only way for a man to gain confidence exclusively through women is to actually consummate all of the encounters, which for a Christian I understand can be problematic. It simply is not enough to get 2/3 of the way and leave thinking he could have had it if he wanted to.

  3. Heidi said, on March 13, 2011 at 12:00

    Well said. If a woman is stupid enough to fall for the feather boa then she deserves the poser she just got.


    • hk2 said, on March 15, 2011 at 11:00

      And twice on Sundays.

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